HE CHOOSES HIS PORN OVER ME

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When we first got together we had sex pretty much every day. Now we have sex once a week or twist week but i literally have to beg him! Ive asked him time and time again why he never initiates sex anymore.
I have caught him watching porn. I have never felt so unattractive in my life or useless! I've told him how I feel. He did not say anything.

He doesn't realize that I know he does it this often.

He seems much more interested in masterbating and watching porn . I've tried talking to him rationally and calmly about it and I let him know that it's starting to really make me feel bad, but he refuses to talk about it and keeps doing it. Everything else in our relationship is wonderful, and he is supportive in any number of other ways, but this is really starting make me depressed.

Im not happy if he watching porn then finish him self with out me .

he will watch porn then done watching he will go upstairs when he thinks i am not paying attention he went upstairs to the toilet and was gone a while i asked him over it and he lied to my face and told me he wasnt i myself wouldnt be bothered in the least if he shown me interest the only time we have sex is if he initiates it and he never wanted to watch porn and now all of a sudden he is curious im scared of what the next step with him is going to be.

When he masturbates he gets satisfied, I get NOTHING!! So no more excuses for it!!
Are men that selfish?? What do they expect us to do?? If they spent half the time they spend on masturbating, to make sure the woman was pleased, then it wouldn't be so frustrating. But when they masturbate, and then just give us quickies they are leaving a VEERY unsatisfied, unhappy woman. Its not fair.

I feel like I cant satisfy my man anymore and I hate it! What am I suppose to do?

I'm attractive and I'm always up for sex and it really hurts me to see that.

My heart is broken :(
he chooses his porn over me!

I get horny and he is watching porn i have to beg him and he reject me alot of time.

It hurt that he would rather watch porn to pleasure himself rather than to have sex with me when I was perfectly willing and actually dying to have sex with him.

I want to be his fantasy woman, I want to be his one and only sexy gal. I want to scream at him, "Baby just look at me, I'm wet and wild and ready to be had!" It's so sad that he doesn't appreciate what he has. So many men complain about their women not giving them enough sex and here I am a girlfriend of a man who doesn't appreciate and know how to use what he has been blessed with. Sigh!

Honestly, I do not have an issue with porn .. My problem is when my boyfriend uses porn to replace me. It is offensive, hurtful, and just plain cruel of him to neglect my sexual needs by expending his sexual energy on releasing his load to images of fantasy women.


I AM NOW AT A POINT IN OUR RELATIONSHIP WHERE I WOULD LIKE TO TAKE THING FURTHER AS I LOVE HIM AND WOULD LIKE TO HAVE A FILLING SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP.
I KNOWS THAT BUT STILL SHOWS VERY LITTLE INTRESS IN ME. OF COURSE THIS HURTS MY FEELINGS SO MUCH..

What should i do to make him satisfy with me and beg me for more?
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Replied by tinker on topic he chooses his porn over me!

THis is a huge problem and if he does not get help with this you must consider walking away. I used to look at porn, because my wife wanted nothing to do with me, NEVER to replace her. Now that she has decided sex is very important to our relationship I have not even thought about it.

He is using it to replace you which is a very bad sign and must be addressed, or this will be just the first step away from you.
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Replied by NotAlone on topic he chooses his porn over me!

Well, I don't get why this is such an issue for some women. It's more than likely not that he doesn't want you but something is missing in your sex life and he is probably trying to find it with porn. He say you are up for sex, but his that just you laying there while he pumps away or do you get engaged and make sure you are giving him everything he needs and wants. If you don't know the answer to this then you need to ask him what he needs the porn for, it's probably not that he doesn't want you it's that he wants you to do other stuff and he is embarrassed to ask you. Try this, when he walks in from work. Get down on your knees and blow him till his knees buckle, then see what he does, that's just a suggestion, that I know would drive me crazy, he may have others, get your freak on, my bet is you don't know how or you would not be that upset about a few pictures
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Replied by Betrayed Wife on topic he chooses his porn over me!

NotAlone,

I have to take issue with your snarky reply. It's typical for a guy to blame the girl for his porn habit. It must be caused by some shortcoming on the woman's part. I know you guys want desperately to believe that porn is harmless, and you want our full permission and blessing to look at it. But the fact is, it does interfere with relationships. The poster has alread said that she's begging him for sex. It isn't like she doesn't want it and he's forced to take care of matters himself. She's begged him to have a normal sexual relationship and to fulfill her needs. It didn't sound like they had a problem until he started looking at too much porn. I think if she threw him down and did what you suggested it wouldn't make a bit of difference. And why the emphasis on getting him off? What about her needs? Maybe she wants him to throw her down and ravage her.

With porn the shoe is rarely on the other foot. I have yet to see a man post that his wife is watching porn and compare him with those sexy guys and as a result not want to have sex with their husbands. You guys refuse to face the fact that your viewing porn can and does affect their partner's self esteem and can wreck a relationship. I know because I have the same problem with my husband and his behavior in turning to other women for attention. As a result of his behavior we barely have a sex life. Whenever we do anything, it's rushed and it's like I'm not even there. And when he does want something I have to wonder what other woman has turned him on. You men have never dealt with the effects of a partner watching porn. It's real. It hurts us. It's demeaning to us. You guys might want to laugh it off or close your eyes to the fact, but it causes irreparable damage to relationships when it becomes between a couple.
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Replied by Spyderwebb on topic he chooses his porn over me!

Great post Betrayed Wife!
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Replied by tinker on topic he chooses his porn over me!

NotAlone

As a man you post is so off the wall and has no connection to what was written by Pbda7. If you cared to read she said he would reject her for porn, now I know of no guy that would turn down a woman to watch porn.
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