HE CHOOSES HIS PORN OVER ME

  • Posts 357
  • Karma: 9
  • Thank you received: 0

Replied by tinker on topic he chooses his porn over me!

Betrayed Wife wrote: I agree wholeheartedly with OBW. (By the way, where you been, man?)

This man in question is not going to change his behavior. He puts his own sick needs and desire way ahead of those of a woman he is supposed to love. He demeans and demoralizes her and totally ignores her needs. He's abandoned her sexually. He's probably abandoned her emotionally and in every other way. What is she even getting out of this relationship? What's there to even salvage?

I have to say this is also exactly what a woman do when they withhold sex and use it as a weapon, and I would say this is just as common, but widly accepted in todays society. I think it is nothing more than two sides of the same coin.

I also want to say that in the begining of this thread I posted that this guy has major problems and she needs to give him a black and white choice, either stop or that she will walk. This is the same choice I say should be given to cheaters, under most cases once only. Having dealt with an addict which I think at times men with porn can become they need to also be given a choice.

Last I know very few men that would ever choose porn over a real woman, and any man that does has problems and is not good for any woman.

7 years 4 months ago #69277

Please Log in or Create an account to join the conversation.

  • Older but wiser
  • Offline
  • Platinum Boarder
  • Platinum Boarder
  • Posts 1751
  • Karma: 45
  • Thank you received: 8

Replied by Older but wiser on topic he chooses his porn over me!

Been busy, with the kids being here for Christmas, going here and there.

I saw a little saying....."Love doesn't hurt. Loving the wrong person does."

Yep.
7 years 4 months ago #69279

Please Log in or Create an account to join the conversation.

  • Adamastor
  • Adamastor's Avatar
  • Offline
  • Platinum Boarder
  • Platinum Boarder
  • Per Aspera ad Astra
  • Posts 320
  • Thank you received: 1

Replied by Adamastor on topic he chooses his porn over me!

tinker wrote: Last I know very few men that would ever choose porn over a real woman, and any man that does has problems and is not good for any woman.


Well I've been there, done that. At that point, I knew that my wife was cheating, I just couldn't prove it. Call it gut feeling, intuition or whatever. Today I have all the hard evidence I need but then I had nothing.

The thing is my wife is against using condoms. So I just told her to go get a blood test because I don't feel like getting an STD or raising children that are not mine. She refused to take the test and she kept on lying and cheating.

So yeah, I chose porn over her.

Now I may be a very disturbed man, but I don't think that cheating is compatible with sexual activity within a married couple.
Against stupidity the gods themselves contend in vain

- Friedrich Schiller
7 years 4 months ago #69322

Please Log in or Create an account to join the conversation.

  • Posts 357
  • Karma: 9
  • Thank you received: 0

Replied by tinker on topic he chooses his porn over me!

Adamastor

Don't get me wrong, I was talking about a situation without other issues such as yours. In you situation I would also not touch her. My thoughts is that if she would not do the test, and stop all contact I would send her packing, or move out yourself. Me saying I was leaving is what really got my wife to understand how bad she had screwed up. Until then she was living in a fog of the affair.
7 years 4 months ago #69324

Please Log in or Create an account to join the conversation.

  • Sir lost a lot
  • Offline
  • Platinum Boarder
  • Platinum Boarder
  • Posts 814
  • Karma: 12
  • Thank you received: 3

Replied by Sir lost a lot on topic he chooses his porn over me!

As in Tinkers case my first wife withheld sex, wasn't a physical problem but a state of how she was raised first having grown up being constantly told that its dirty then later being subjected to her own mothers views as to that the husband needs to earn that privilege or when she wanted something. That I had a problem with and should have never stayed with her as long as I had, if the reason was a physical problem and she couldn't have sex or could only handle it once in a blue moon, I would never have left, but the mental and physical abuse is the main reason I ended that marriage. Truthfully if she hadn't have been so abusive I might have done the same as you tinker and started to watch porn but in my case she would have just thrown the TV across the room.

In any case and as you have stated as well, I have no knowledge of any guy I know that would refuse to have sex with his wife or GF and watch porn instead. It's one thing to watch porn to enhance the sex your going to have with your spouse but there has got to be something wrong when a guy refuses sex and then goes and watches porn instead. And I doubt this guy will change his behaviour.
"The past is what makes us who we are today, the future is the window to who we will become. To hold onto the past and not embrace each new day will only stop us from becoming all we can be for ourselves and the ones we hold dear to our hearts." - by me
7 years 4 months ago #69348

Please Log in or Create an account to join the conversation.

  • Posts 9
  • Thank you received: 0

Replied by surfn4ever on topic HE CHOOSES HIS PORN OVER ME

If you guys can help me.... I'm having the same problem.... my boyfriend chooses porn over me.... even his past girlfriends that were waaayyyy hotter then me, yelled and bitched at him because of his porn problem.... I feel so low and discusting .... but then when I'm out in public sooo many guys are hitting on me. He has a fetish which I go above and beyond to make him happy with but I just feel like I cant compare to the porn. I've never had this problem with any other bf.... I'm so sexually frustrated I'm close to walking away. I don't want to give up on him but he's not giving me much choice. Please help.... I've never felt like this in my life and trying to get a grasp on things...
7 years 4 months ago #69353

Please Log in or Create an account to join the conversation.

Powered by Kunena Forum